TokisoM Writes

If I read another “study” looking at the state of why black people are not married or why black women are single or why black people are not keen on marrying across the colour line; I will hang myself with a shoe string! Is that all we are as black people; husbands and wives. Don’t get me wrong I love the idea of marriage and respect it and would also love to be part of the institution one day. BUT I don’t think that whether or not I get married or when I do get married or to whom I get married too should be a study of sorts. So some smart person figures out why I’m not married by the age of 30…so what?! How does this change the fact that there is global warming, or crime, or the constant rise of the petrol price. Are all the other races getting married at the "right" time and having the "right" amount of children? I wonder why are there not as many studies looking at our economical standing. Why are black people globally not inventing smart things like th...

This year taught me to appreciate and value myself so much. It was in this year that I learnt that Tokiso has that pure foolish silly love – And I am happy to know that I can love that deeply.  Bungee jumping crew! Great times! I lost friends and gained friends in this year. It was in this year that I put myself first and didn't feel guilty about it. It was in this year I finally accepted that I don’t fit in any particular box.  My partner in craziness! Thami Kwazi It was in this year that I accepted that not everyone will like me. It was in this year I learnt that things change when you least expect it and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.  It was in this year I believed it when I looked in the mirror and said I am beautiful – flaws and all. It was this year that I learnt to loosen up a bit and accept that I cannot be perfect at everything. It was this year that I learnt the art of actually having a proper budget....