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We Live We Learn (Part 3)


“If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude” – Maya Angelou.

A profound quote by Maya Angelou; it’s one that speaks to me now in my life more than ever. The three part blog titled “We live We learn” was me trying to explore the uncomfortable feelings of life not going as planned. 

Although one wants to play tough and act like we got things under control when in actual fact all sorts of emotions are boiling inside of us.

A full day has, day and night – therefore a full human cycle has the good and bad. My biggest challenge is accepting that things don’t always go as planned - accepting the bad.

I've always followed a plan and for a good part of my life that plan always worked out. But recently I see plans not becoming a reality – as and when I want them to be.

I’m letting go. After reading an article in Essence magazine I was comforted in knowing that I’m not the only person who experiences a bit of a life frustration. 

"Be determined, but don’t be defined by your age or your own personal deadlines." - Janelle Harris (Go for the Goal, not the timeline) 

I can’t change my current situation but I can change my attitude. Don’t get me wrong this is not some quick fix to happy-ville but it sure makes waking up in the morning easier.

Everybody has a purpose in this world. Sometimes it’s not what you might have planned and sometimes it doesn’t happen at the time you want it to happen but keep at it. 

The soundtrack to my current state of affairs is DJ Ganyani’s house hit, “That’s Life”. Although I’m not talking about a love gone wrong I can still relate to the lyrics “That’s life…we got’s to let it go”.


Comments

  1. Donald Rapotu12 March 2012 at 22:18

    from high school i always knew that your going to be a good writer one day..nice piece

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  2. Tokiso M. Mbatha12 March 2012 at 23:26

    Thanks D :-)

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