TokisoM Writes

I know how we'll meet, chat and share a sentiment over a pot of tea. I know how we'll kiss and tell our tales and adventures. I know how you look, walk, smell and laugh. I know your smile, your tears and pain. I know the next chapter in your life, the new colours and new habits you'll adopt, the new love notes; I miss you, I love you.  And no we didn't rush into this.  I know your first thought in the morning and your last. I know that when God gives you to me and me to you... I know it will be us with a new beginning and happy forever after I know to have patience, because you are worth the wait, and I don't lose patience with each rising of the sun and the setting of the same. Instead I am happy because I know I'm one day closer to being with you. "This is why I've been single, but at least I've drafted my letter to my Queen" Sizwe Mkhize: @CSayTweets or Sizwe Mkhize on Face Book! 

What kind of relationship do you have with your money? Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich – 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make With Money by Lois P.Frankel is a book about financial thinking and not financial planning. I had to get that out before you think that this a quick guide to wealth – something we all know doesn't exist. “This book is dedicated to every woman who works too hard, earns too little, and never seems to get ahead financially”. That dedication line from the author caught my attention because it is a story most of us share. We have the careers, look the part, live the life but we don’t see ourselves moving ahead financially at the pace we would love to. I picked up this book: Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich because of two words on the cover “rich” and “mistakes”.  From what’s written on the cover I figured that she meant we can get rich from what we have but we make mistakes with it. That caught my attention because I’d rather be told how to make the most with wh...

*Black Humour : “ humour that deals with unpleasant aspects of life in a bitter or ironic way” Thanks to the Market Theatre for the Pic Oh what a show! Set in a South African prison during Apartheid; five prisoners tell us how they ended up behind bars. One man stutters, another believes that he was falsely accused, another was back-stabbed by a cousin, another idolized a con man and another had an affair with his employer's wife. While watching the multi-awards winning South African classic play, Asinamali, I experienced a bitter/sweet moment. The sweet was all the laughing I was doing; the bitter was the fact that Apartheid was a dehumanising cruel system. Thanks to the Market Theatre for the Pic Written by the legendary Mbongeni Ngema , Asinamali was inspired by the 1983 rent strike in Lamontville Township, KwaZulu-Natal. Led by activist Msizi Dube the people of Lamontville wanted the government to know “we do not have money” ( Asinamali ) when rent was increas...

Herman Mashaba’s story is a well written anecdote about a man who wanted to be more and worked hard to make his dreams a reality! Coming from a small village in Gauteng, born in the time when being black was a crime – Herman Mashaba defied the odds, set his own goals and worked hard to reach them. Do you have faith in your dreams? Do you have faith in your capabilities? How far will you go to reach the standard of success you've set for yourself? Those were the burning questions I walked away with after reading Herman Mashaba’s autobiography Black Like You, co-written with Isabella Morris. Pic sourced from:  http://blacklikeyou.co.za/ He is one of South Africa’s inspirational success stories. If there is someone who could have used any excuse under the sun to avoid working hard and settle for a life of mediocrity, Herman Mashaba is that man. He lost his father when he was very young, his mother struggled to raise him and his siblings on her domestic-worker...

Please let’s unlearn the idea that we don’t like each other! We do like each other. We love each other. We want the best for each other. But the world would rather have us hating each other because if we worked together we’d be a force so powerful, many would bow at our feet. It’s easier to have us hate each other. They whisper in our ears to hate each other for random things that don’t make a difference. Ask yourself this; why do you feel the need to spend so much energy debating what happens on another woman’s head. So, she likes weaves – why does this bother you so much. If her hair was any different would you like that person more? Why do you feel the need to spend hours discussing that another woman loves applying make-up? Do you buy her make-up? Do you have to help her apply it on her face? Why is her face an issue in your life? And this also goes with someone’s success, choice of lovers, love for fashion and whatever else. Why are we obsessed with what goes on in ano...

Decoded by Jay-Z  starts off a bit stale and for a while promises to not get better! Thank you to this site  for the image! But I’m a sucker for punishment and once  I've  started a book, I will finish it. I’m that cat curiosity killed. The book aesthetically looks amazing; it makes use of glossy paper, has beautiful art work on the cover in eye seducing black and gold (the one I bought. It's also available in a nasty white and gold).  The photographs inside are hypnotic and used well. Okay back to why we buy books; to read. To really enjoy this book, you have to like Jay-Z’s music! As in; be that fan that started with him at the beginning.  If you are a new fan, you must educate yourself on his old music. To really enjoy this book, you shouldn’t be interested in Jay-Z the business man and the details of how he went from the projects to Forbes list.  For all that information read his  unauthorized  biography by Zack O’Malley...

I believe growth is everything! Have you noticed how children aim to increase their worth? They crawl, they crawl faster, they realise that standing is possible, they discover they can use furniture to walk, then they start to risk walking without holding on. Once they walk and discover running… try catching them! So that’s how I’m feeling right now. I’m crawling… and it’s exciting! Every time someone I know tells me about any kind of growth in their life– my heart skips a beat in joy. Growing up has taught me that increasing your worth is not just about increasing the amount of money in your account or the material goodies you can afford. NO! I’m talking about knowledge, skills, starting new things, taking new directions…all of that. I’m talking about the kind of worth that no one can take away.   No one can take away your education   No one can take away the lessons you learn from starting a new project (it doesn't matter if it succeeds, it’s ...